“Me or your mom?”
Saturday, 27 November, 2004
General | 笔者: Twinsmom
Last time use to hear this very famous question, usually the girls/wife ask their boyfriend/husband:
“If me and your mom felt in the water, who you gotto rescuse first? Me or your mom?”
By then still young, no boyfriend, so just laugh it off and said: “Don’t find a man with mother wan lor.” (tsk tsk tsk…cursed people no mother, so bad.)
Then got boyfriend liao, moved in stay with his family. Then the “Auntie” I called everyday became my mother-in-law after six years.
How is she treat me all this while? After I ate she kicked me out of the kitchen then she wash my plate. I came back from class she can cooked just for me. I got “heaty” from OT she boil herbal tea for me. Hanged my laundry, collect my laundry, fold my laundry. a lot. All because of she love her son, she love the person her son love as well.
me and my MIL’s relationship got up very well, but few years back there was once spoilt by my selfishness, and I didn’t talk to her for almost a year, and caught MCAP in between, and he don’t talk to his mom also for quite a while.
Horrible wasn’t it? I made the mother and the son don’t talk to each other. At that time I thought I am very right to the very bottom at every points, but now think about it, how petty I was.
Yeah, my MIL mistaken a lot of things, and said something not nice about me, but aren’t there any way I can’t jokingly tell her the truth? instead of jump left right center called MCAP came home throw thing around to show her my anger. I feel very bad everytime I think about this, this is something I can never simply brush it off.
After I gave birth she climb the staircase with her painful leg to bath the girls, after confinement finally she got some rest, I claimed that she not helping me anymore. And I forgot she cooked all the delicious confinement food for me, and tried to find all the solution for me to sooth the ever crying babies, and said that she very old fashion to believe all those old wive tale.
Of cause I can easily forgive meself and say oh, I got post-natal blue then mah, so I thought about all those weird weird things because of mood swing lor. But I know I just try to cheat myself.
Now I treat her like my own mom, I try to do everything she request (which is not much), talk to her whenever we are in the same room, find the topic she like, KPC with her about everything. Just try my best to patch up those day bad mouth about her.
Sometime think about one day in the future my daughter not talk to me becuase of her man make me shiver. Right now when I hear someone bad mouth and cursing her MIL, I can’t help but wander who brought up the man she love and married, and come on, I already sleep with her son liao, cuddle her son every night liao, I actually won liao wor, why still have to “step” on her like that? For those who have son, just close you eyes think about it, one day in the future your son don’t listen to you but let another woman who come out from no way curse you like no tomorrow, how you feel huh?