Seesaw
Friday, 28 January, 2005
General | 笔者: Twinsmom
I love playing seesaw when I was young, together with my sister, one on each side, try to balance by use our legs to bounce the seesaw, or use our weight to press the seesaw down.
Now grown up never play seesaw again.
But then in our life we are playing seesaw all the time.
Balance the time for our study and play when we still in school; balance the work and leisure when we started working; balance our relationship with our spouse; after married balance in between two family, own and in-law; then when have kids, even more tougher, we have to stand in the middle of the seesaw, to balance the one side kids, and one side husband seesaw, this is the higher level on this seesaw game.
What make the seesaw fun is it got to have people on each side, if both player also sit to one side then how to play?
Some discussion in 5xmom’s smoking blog have spark some firework in the blog sphere, from a very simple smoke make girl looks bad issue became like gender equality issue, and domestic abuse issue as well, obviously this was someone who doesn’t understand the rule of the seesaw game.
Actually what 5xmom said is very simple, female and male playing seesaw, one on each side, smoking or not up to you, but since female have the responsibility to carry the baby in the future, so it is better for the girls don’t smoke.
Why 5xmom said “Men smoke because they have a lot of pressures to earn money.”? this is because she understand men, she worked for a male boss for donkey years, and now surrounding by 5 males in her family, what a single female who recently broke up know men more than 5xmom?
Gender equality issue is like playing seesaw, if the female find that the society (seesaw) is no fair to them, they are on the ground, then use your strength to bounce back, get yourself back to the game, instead of try to climb to the other side to fight for female right. Wasn’t it fun to be sometime up and sometime low in the seesaw game? Instead of staying equal all the time? What happen if you try to crawl to the male side? They see you try to get on their side, they stand up and walk away, let you drop on the ground hurt your bottom, or simply just forever sit on the ground.
man is a very single minded creature, when he is working he is fully concentrate, same on the sex, they need full concentration to get erection. Unlike woman, while she is working on the office, her mind can fly miles away to her boyfriend, if a FTWM (full time working mom) will contently thinking about her baby, while during sex, we still can think about the coming outing with our gal friends and what should we wear, or a mother can think about what grocery was short in the kitchen during sex.
Because of the concentration it brings more pressure on them, so a puff is necessary for some men, if they can’t find other way to release their tension.
I was a smoker too 15 years ago, why quit? Because I wish to have baby later, and I found a way to release my tension—writing. MCAP is a smoker but I stop nagging him to quit, because I can see he get more relax after a puff, either I tell him to quit or not, if it is against his will it still do more harm than good to him.
So if someone (male or female) want to smoke, smoke in their own cubical, be confident to your smoking and gender issue, because if you are confident to yourself enough, you will never care what other talk about, didn’t you ever see those well train dog simply bark on the people pass by their owner’s house? Only the insecure feel threaten creature will show their fang when people come near.
Oop! Sorry…actually I should say stray dogs. I love stray dogs, as long they just pick up the bone I throw to them and walk away, instead of barking non-stop in other’s house.
Well, stray dog don’t know how to play seesaw right?