To Mumsgather
Friday, 25 March, 2005
General | 笔者: Twinsmom
Last year when I watching the Astro programme “Fear Factor”, it mention something like “what is your fears?”. Everyone have their fears, afraid of height, water, rat etc..
I afraid of a lot of things, but before CNY when I experienced chest pain, I finally know my greatest fear of all, same like what Mumsgather – what if something happen to me, who will taking care of my girls and husband?
Twinsdad rather patang wan you know? He don’t like me to think like this, and he always assure me that everything will be fine, I’ll be good health and long life LOL…
But still this is very “common” fear to a lot mother, especially the mother whole taking care of their kids all by themselves.
Hei! Not that we think our husband not capable enough, Twinsdad is good on taking the girls too, but if anything happen to me, let say I got sick, Twinsdad have to stay home lor wor, if he stay home then who going to work? So you see? No work no money wor.
This is a kind of worry and fear we can’t easily swing it away, usually when sickness strike, a lot of things spin around in our head, think about any “plan”, any “possibility”, and any “may be”.
And that is a invisible list in our mind – who can take care the kids if ….
You just can’t help to think so much, and in the same time have to put up a brave face not to worry the other half (kids still too young to know, but I think they can feel it), and another half also very worry, but also have to put up a very brave front to ensure the wife everything will be just fine, so…yee? so calm hor? Nobody jumping up and down? But both know have to keep each other support, and keep an eye to each other closely.
I can feel so much to what have happen to MG, not only in this issue lar, a lot of other things too. Reading her blog always give me a feeling she is writing about me in the same time.
We have a lot in common, two kids, breastfeeding mother (me no longer lar though), SAHM, no maid, no helper (err…this one I slightly better lar, have the girls’ gu-ma to help sometime), no real helper beside our husband (real helper means can really take care of kids included wash dirty bottom) etc. oh, and bad temper too 
(and we try so hard not to raise our voice and temper).
That’s why I feel so much when know she experienced the seizure, horrible you know? Alone at home with young kids (and she got a baby some more), if anything happen nobody will know. And I’ll say what she experienced consider a blessing in disguised, it happen when Mr. MG is around.
All I have to say to MG is “relax, you must.” Let the already dusty house even dustier, let the mountain-like laundry go compete with Mont. Everest, read blog everyday as usual, but don’t spend time drop comment, unless your hand really itchy lar, no need to update your blog just rest, we can always do a revision to your old entries, go meditate like Earthtone and MunKit :pbpbpb :D.
I pray for MG, and a big big hug to her.
Sorry I don’t know how to disable the comment, please don’t leave a comment in this entry, go to MG’s blog give her a big hug if you wish 