Singapore Day 10,950
Wednesday, 9 November, 2005
General | 笔者: Earthtone
That’s 365 X 30. I spent two years in Malaysia studying kindergarten. 
Hey, I’m still one piece. It was great to have my sisters come visit me during my confinement. Twinsmom brought a truckload of baby stuffs including playstuffs, baby slings, etc etc etc. some more when here for two days still bought me Ginseng tea and milk bottles. Knowing how expensive it is for them to spend SGD, I have to say thanks from the bottom of my heart. It’s true, sisters are definitely better siblings than brothers. (becos why? - they give me gifts lah..)
I’m feeling better already. there were some days last week where I couldn’t feel my waist/back exist. It was so sng……until, I really felt like my trunk part was transparent. I was down then because felt damn weak. It was like ” gosh, will I ever get well from this?”
3 days after baby was born, he was re-admited for jaundice. Spent a whole half day going to pd and admiting him. Ended up with a slight cold. That night I laid on my bed feeling very very very cold. And then I started screaming under the sheets. Like as if it was so cold all the heat has escaped from my body. I was scared and angry, made nosies I never knew I could. Nearly went into a delirium, my mind begna to wander and pieces of unrelated thoughts floated by. But I sat up and recomposed myself. I simply couldn’t allow myself to fall sick. It was better after I sat up.
It must have been the shower I took in the morning before I brought Baby to see the pd that morning. Hey, pd quite cute leh. dirty and smelly hair, how to can?
I think that after delivery, one loses lots of blood and water, not to mention a whole baby also exited. The body is completely thrown out of balance. I felt so solid before Baby came out. Very strong and healthy. But after he was delivered, I felt like it is going to take a lot of work to rebalance the system. Imagine you are a table and you have 4 legs. Someone cut off one, sure you must take time to rearrange your legs to balance again right? (Surely this illustration will work cos everyone must have been a 3-legged table in their last lives)
But then, may be I’m just bullshitting. Because my mom told me she had a neighbour in pun sampa last time. One night she delievered, next morning she was squatting outside laundering her clothes liao.
Throughout the whole process, I can’t help but wonder exactly how much of what we are doing now is redundant. Like ultrascan the babe, ante-natal classes, blood testing, casearian, induced labour ( which I had one), epidural etc. For thousand of years or in more rural areas, women give birth to babies without all these. How did they manage ? Of course the infant mortality rate is definitely higher on our side with all these help, to be fair.
I rejected the idea of detailed fetal scan and ante natal classes throughout my pregnancy. I don’t discourage people from doing it, but for me, at 5 months, what if you find out something wrong with the babe at the detailed scan? And I have too much pride to attend antenatal classes. I figure I will figure it out through trial and error. It’s just me.
As for breastfeeding, I’m still a little hopeful. Now that I’m feeling better, I’ll give it a more serious try. Btw some of the advices given in the previous comment sections were superb. Like warm the breast with warm water, drink some warm water, and massaging the breasts. They work like clock work. Thanks alot man.
I go makan now. ;p
it’s great you’re feeling better… need to take more stuff which warms your body and “pou” so can have healthy body… my friend once told me when i just had ivan, “people say if you don’t pou during confinement, you kenot pou after that… only time is the next confinement”… dunno why but if can follow lor coz her health really bad the first time around, and she had to compensate after the second child
So glad to hear that you are doing well. and better..
you will be a little more settled .. in time to come…. but donch feel like you are the only one feeling the way you do.. because i went thru’ the exact same thing.. ! so hang in there..ET..!! if i can do it.. so can you ..!!!
“add oil, add oil..!!”
take shower in the morning? we take hot herbal baths in the hot afternoon with the windows and doors closed. Wow, so thats’ what happens when you dont follow the old wives tale. Also dont blow the fan directly to yourself even when its hot. I did that for a while and wondered why I felt horrid.
Great that you feel good now! Remmeber, it can only get better!
o ya, didnt wash hair for two weeks at least. if wash also use ginger boiled or herbed water.
stubborn lar, don’t follow old wives tale lar, want to meet cute pead lar, ah, ah, ah…see? what happen? anyway… remember not to touch old water that’s all lar, otherwise like me the back can never heal. and alway headache.
You must pou and rest kao kao la! I was also half dead like you after I gave birth. You got twinsmum and your mummy, I nobody (mil bochap, mum passed away liao), chikei kao tim. But later feel proud of myself also, I can say, I did it MY WAY!.
Take care of yourself and baby!
you should be very proud of yourself by now… went through the first week already!!
congratulations on the success!!
day 10,950? does it means ur bday on 9 Nov? if yes then happy bday to u ya.
glad to hear that u are ok now. i wash my hair twice a week during confinement, with hot ginger water, but make sure u dry it once after out from the bathroom.
Thing will better & better lagi after the 1st 2 weeks ler…and glad to heard u start to try bf again..hehe …I oso tried hard after fullmoon eja…:P
shaiulin, you don’t kena con lar, ET copied my Singapore day 1, 2, 3 aje lar, her birthday still few more month leh.
beware of post-partum blues, but it seems like you’re doing alright.
may you and your precious baby many many wonderful days ahead, of course, a great hubby to you and a great father to your baby will make everything perfect.
Hi Sue - I heard and believe that too. Before I was pregnant I was a bit on the weak side, so hope to use the confinement period to pou kao kao. A fren said like all the doors open then and the body can absorb all the goodness…
Mama Bok - thanks, you’ve always been so supportive and positive. even though I dun always reply, I always appreciate your caring and positive encouragements. Thanks many, really..
Mrs B - yalor…I knew how taboo it was…but the night before head was itching like crazy and by the next day it was really smelling… how to go out that way? no choice. To top it off, the heater died on me with the shampoo on. Thanks for your concern. I really feel better now and I do believe you all when you say it will get better.
Twinsmom - I learnt it the hard way…:(
Zara’s mom - that was very steady of you.. Lemme kaotou you. You really deserve to feel proud of yourself. Now that I understand how hellish it must have been-Like one person only left half piece like that. Thank goodness it was only for a week or two hor?
Shiaulin - thanks, hee…but not exactly. I think the conclusion is MUST use herbs, must use hot water, environment must be warm. I went to see TCM for it the next day. That helped.
Msau - you did bf after full month? wah, makes me very hopeful leh….hehhe..
yes, me same with MSAU. only decided to bf seriously after confinement period for 1st one. That was after i read a la leche guide on BF like 4 weeks after delivery. also with confinement lady around, difficult. still can wan, just have to really equip yourself with the knowledge and a support group would be a real bonus. so persist on it.