Stubborn
Tuesday, 29 November, 2005
General | 笔者: Twinsmom
This morning Twinsdad went to the acupuncture clinic take number for father, I saw it on the dinign table “37″.
Later Bridgette fetch mom and father to my house pick up the number than go for the treatment.
I asked mom: “阿爸等下来这里是吗？” (later father come here isn’t it?)
mom: “不知道他。” (don’t know him)
I open the gate went outside, father wide down the window.
I asked him: “你这几天都要去针灸是吗？” (this few days you need to go for acupuncture isn’t it?)
he nod.
“酱这几天你就住在我这里啰，等针灸疗程完了才回去。” (then you stay here for this few days, until the treatment finish lor.)
“不用啦，我回家吃药什么都方便。” (no need lar, stay home more convenient for me)
“可是你现在最好不要这样上上下下啰，五楼上上下下咧。” (but now you better don’t climb so much lor, 5 floor up and down leh)
“我可以的啦。” (I can lar)
“就这几天罢了嘛*动气*” (stay for few days only mah)
“我可以啦，真的不可以我会自动过来的，你不请我也会过来。” (I really can lar, if really cannot I will come to your place, you don’t call me I will come)
Speechless… so stubborn.
Sometimes they have their own set of mind. They might not want to trouble you.
To us we are more than happy to help but to them, they see burden.
Old people are normally like that, sometimes they just don’t want us to treat them like they’re sick and can’t take care of themselves. My grandparents also like that…
like I said lah… the older we get… the more stubborn we are… sigh!
I don’t think it is sturborn. I think old people prefer staying in their own home. I remember my hubby’s pak pak, he insisted the last days of his life, he wants to go home then to die in the hospital.
Same - that day he was sick in Singapore for 3 days. Baru abit better he wanted to return to KL. I was also angry because he was very adamant about it. What if something happens half way? Even with Mother, it may be abit handful to handle.
Turned out quite dangerous. He suffered gradual stroke and upon reaching KL was sent to UH immediately. Later my Mother told me he was worried if sent to a S’pore hospital, it may be very expensive.
In a way, I guess it was his instinct. He’s like that. I somehow trust his judgement. Let him make his own decision. That’s just the way he is. He hates to be bossed about, and is ultra independent. I guess if we respect that, it’ll be better. It’s his own health and he’s more concerned than any one of us.
My parents are more stubborn than yours
my mom also the same… stuborn.. *sigh*
ai yo…why old people like that? by the way, are they old?
aigh.. I think it’s also he doesn’t want to admit he has to depend on you people? Or he thinks it’s troubling you?
Old people are like that loh. The older they get, they more like a kid they become.
Old folks are very touchy about their independents .. Twinsmom..! i think they feel that if they still can get up.. they wanna do it by themselves.. very proud ppl they are. Just gotta be patient lor..
yalor, when we old oldlady, we oso like that har! Sometimes used to our own place oldlady, we reluctant to move from our “comfort zone” mah… no choice lor..
**Allyfeel**, to us we feel this is our responsibility to take care of them, but to them they feel they become a burden, what a bumber :).
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**Shoppingmum**, yah, especially man, sick also not admit, let alone old liao.
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**Egghead**, do you think you old already will be like tht ot not? I warn Little Skywalker next time
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**michelle**, yah, own home always the best, my MIL even offer my father stay down stair, hahaha…I told her he doesn’t even want to stay with me, let alone with “chan ga”.
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**ET**, everytime when he is OK he never think about his health condition, only when *something happen* then only he will become very cautious, you see, after he recover he slowly go back to his old habit liao.
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**Jacky**, want to compare note?
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**Shiaulin**, at least now she control her diet right? not like my father he will go back to his old habit wor.
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**cockroach**, emm…they older than me lor :lol:…
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**Zara’smum**, hahaha…返老还童?
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**Mama Bok**, **Annie**, You are very right :D, guess may be one day when I am old I might be the same like them too :P.
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