Stern Mom Earthtone
Friday, 16 December, 2005
Kids | 笔者: Earthtone
It’s my turn now to bombard this blog with my baby and mom stories.
Today I was stern mom and proud to be one.
I read from books that when babies cry, you have to attend to them quickly. Because they are expressing their needs. So all the while since Baobao was home, I tried to attend to his crying immediately.
BUT then. He needs to be held all the time while he’s awake. It’s difficult to get him to sleep and when he’s not, he wants to be held all the time. Basically it means someone has to be attending to him a large part of the day.
I decided that’s not doable.
Today I let him ry for half an hour. Even the maid cannot tahan…went to pick him up. I said ” Jagan ambil. Tarok!” She said something like, now you dun carry him, net time when he grows up, you will miss it. Ok, granted I agree with that, but he wants to be attended to almost the whole day leh. When I go back to work and my MIL comes to care for him, my MIL will not have the energy to do that.
So we let him cry, until he ran out of gas, almost. Everynow and then, I went over to stick the pacifier into his mouth and gave him some lectures…
“Cannot always expect people to carry you, Mommy got more important thingns to do ( like surf internet)! Next time if Ah ma take care, Ah Ma where got energy to carry you all the time!”
“Be a good boy huh, Mommy dun like naughty boy…!”
“Stop crying ! Mommy’s eating lunch.”
Wah….I feel like so steady man…giving command while the little one wailed on in oblivion.
But then. Actually he knows one. By the end of the half an hour, he was all washed out. When I picked him up, he looked at me like a little mouse, quite scared…
Then he drifted off to sleep…
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Wah…different opinions all round leh..
But thanks everyone, I know it’s out of concern..in case I will hurt my Baobao if I do it wrongly.
Dun worry, I love him and I won’t hurt him. 
oooo so fierce? but babies cry for a reason. and at the tender age even before 6 months old, they are not capable of manipulating us on purpose (unlike how my 6 month old ashley is doing to us now with her fake cry…)..
I’m trying to get him off his “want to be held all the time” habit. have to recognise his crying loh..
I have to say I am wary that I may neglect his real needs if interpret his crying wrongly.
like yesterday he kept crying and I tried to train him, thought he wanted to be carried. realise later he soiled himself..poor baby, I was very guilty.
it’s everyday on-the-job training and learning for us first time mom.
err… not so wise to let him cry non-stop… it might aggrivate his brain activities wor
means will how har, if his brain activities aggravated.
Wow 30 minutes of crying is a long time. How you can tahan (tolerate) ah? Use the Ferberizing method.
oh…I done that a lot… mommy will know the crying wan after a while.
anyway…you are the mother, only you know when he really need to be carry, I bet you can do it right.
BTW one thing, infant really very very smart lor, they know…I mean they **know**.
I agree with Mom2Ashley, at this tender age, he won’t be able to manipulate you yet, so he must be crying for a reason. Scared to be alone, something is making him uncomfortable..
It seems that if you listen to them closely at this tender age, and respond to their need quickly, they will grow up to be more confident and loving babies. Because they know they always have you to count on.
So, try to see why he’s crying rather than letting him cry until tire loh. You do this too often, he may just stop ‘communicating’ to you.
Maybe his cot not comfortable? Maybe the sun too glaring? etc etc.
When they are older and able to understand some instruction, then you can do ‘control crying’ with them, but this is too young to start ler.
My oppinion anyway. I’m pro attach parenting one.
Hey..ET,
Good to train him now..
Donch be like me ok.. regret.. i never let the brat cry..! Now bully me left, right and center..!! hahah!!
I donch mind.. but it’s not good for her either..!! and donch say 6 mths donch know how to manipulate ah..!! they know for sure..!!my brat now sleep only at 1am or later..!! can die or not..!!
Please.. please donch .. let this happen.. or else “susa” ahhhh..!!
不要酱没良心啦! 人家BB都不到一岁,你酱不理人家.很坏呢!:P
Carry him lar, he is too young and small. Anyway, what’s the Ferberizing method??
hmm…30 mins, u r better than me le :-0 anyway, I think i can’t really recall much too, time flies
but now when they grown up, i wish turning back the clock and i don mind carry 
Pleaseeeeeee don’t ignore small baby’s cries, he is so young, how dare you letting her to cry for 30 mins? Don’t be so stern lah to a small baby.
I believe in attacement parenting and I have carried my girl a lots when she was young. She didn’t spoil, she just refused to be carry when she reached the mobility age.
poor Baobao… personally, my opinion is same as Mum2Ashley and Zara’s Mama… a new baby doesn’t know how to manipulate yet, they just wish to be cuddled, I think they do not feel confortable with the new world yet… if can, they’d rather jump back into the womb and feel the safe snuggle there LOL…
and 30 minutes might be a lil too long to let him cry, lest his tummy gets filled with wind and he end up crying more due to colic? and when he reach 1 year old and he’s just so cute, by then he’ll be too energetic and too heavy to let us carry for long…