We’ll see…
Thursday, 26 January, 2006
General | 笔者: Twinsmom
I had dinner gathering with old classmates last evening, 7 of us, one single, 6 married with baby, kids, and pre-teen.
As usual the topic all revolve around kids’ study, education system, school fees, tuition, curriculums etc etc etc.
All complaining how heavy the school bag is, how hassle to get the kids finish their homework, how difficult to get a good tuition teacher, how expensive the tuition fees is, the homework are just way too much for the kids. And how many round/KM they have to drive every day, to fetch the kids back and forth between the school, tuition, and home, or in addition — grandparent/caretaker’s home.
After sometime they talk about the above, they turned their attention to me — did I enroll the twins into any nursery? Why not? which school I plan to enroll them? do I plan to send the twins for extra class, tuition or activities? Why I still not learn to drive? Who will fetch the twins to school? etc etc etc.
Seriously, I am a person who has no plan. I don’t even know which school to register my twins, I always think — When the time come, I will know what to do.
So I don’t even know am I going to send the twins for tuition, or do I need to. Aren’t they have enough homework to finish from school? why bother to add the extra?
But my friends all insist I will have to send the twisn for tuition, because in the future when I find my twins’ performance not as good like their classmates, I will follow.
I don’t know, and I hate people help me to “foresee” my will.
Just like when I prepare my wedding, they said I will regret in the future because I don’t make it big, I will be regret if I don’t spend some money on the nice wedding photos. And even when I pregnant with the twins, they all *predict* I will not be able to cope, taking care the twins alone? are you nut? quit your job become stay-at-home-mom? double nut! I will bore to my very last toe.
Despite all the negative “prediction”, I doing well and happy. The more negative they see, the more possitive I become.
There always a tiny voice from a corner in my head tell me I no need to do things like others, may be I am wrong, but there are still possibility that I will be right.
But my friends still insist I will, and definately become anyone of them.
Just hate it, hate people give me negative “prediction”.
I prefer to keep my kid at home for as long as possible… hate schools!!
船到桥头自然直… nursery/kindy don’t have to register early lah… but for 国小, definitely need to check in the newspapers to see when registration starts for those born in the same year as your twins.
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dun worry..man man lai lar…
sometime if u enrol them to the best school, they will not 100% get good result! this depends on kids only lar..!! if ur kids is very clever..sure cans urvivve is bad school also…not a big deal lar…
of cos, i believe belles are very clever!! haha…
Hey..Twinsmom,
Yer friends are prolly just having your welfare at heart.. and trying to share their experiences ..
Take everything in stride.. and listen to yourself.. for you know what’s best for your twins..
Me too, no plan! Somemore very lazy, don’t like to think so much!
If my ex-classmates keep pouring all kinds of negative feedbacks to me, for once I will keep quiet then maybe will try to avoid this kind of gathering in the future.
You friends have your interest in their mind.. but only you know what is best for yourself and the kids..
So don’t succumb to peer pressure, do what you think is best!
For your belles, the registration for std one will be opened in March 2007( be it in chinese or kebangsaan schools).
I still cannot believe my little girl is going to kindergarten next year!! seems like only yesterday I was still cradling the crying baby!!
With a clever mummy like you, your twins no need tuition lah. Mummy spend time with them enuf liao. I also don’t plan far ahead, when the time come then only think abt it,school is still far away for twins no need to think about it now, think abt CNY lah, is two days away! Gong Xi Fa Cai!!
I know what you mean. I guess sometimes people believe so much in their own experience that they dun want others to repeat their own mistakes. Thus “imposing” their views on others when dishing out advice.
I’m with you. Go with the flow. Cat says A you do A, and dog says B you do B then mah so bo eng ?
I can’t stand planners too…nothing wrong with them, we just work differently.
**Egghead**, from your latest post, Little Skywalker seems not really agree with you? hahaha…
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**DG**, I thought primary school no need to register earlier right?
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**Milly**, I think send them to a school only have 10 students, then they will always remind in top ten :lol:.
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**Mama Bok, Zara’s Mum**, they sure want to pass me their experience, but scare me lor :P.
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**Jefferene**, hah…wanna join lazy mama club?
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**Mummyof2**, yo, same with your Pheobe hor? next year all our three girls going to kindy lor, so fast.
hahaha… like you said, like still cradling them yesterday and meet in Mont Kiara :D.
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**Contented Mum**, you really make me laugh :D, look at what in front of our nose first hor? hahaha… 新年开心！
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**ET**, really bo-eng if I follow like tham, the schedule just too siao, and some more some primary school start 全日制, imagine the long hour!
Well, all depends on individuals. I am like you too. Will decide when the time comes.It’s still along way to go anyway.
for primary school, registration dates will be published in all major newspapers… keep an eye on that… cause if you miss the registration window time very 麻烦。
Tution hard to get…and very $$$$$
Hi TM,
your post reminded me of my mother’s position when she decided to send me to WMsia to study in a boarding school when I was 16. The teachers and headmaster of my former school scolded her for her decision and said that she would regret her decision. They even went on to say that it was a matter of time before I left the boarding school and come crawling back to my old school. Even my classmates thought I was crazy.
My mother had to endure these negative comments, while encouraging me to do my best in my new school. I cannot imagine the challenges she had to face in her decision. But I can safely say that her decision was a correct one.
After I graduated from high school, I was granted a scholarship to study at a local college and thereafter, furthered my studies in the UK. Upon my return,I have worked in JB and currently am working back in my hometown. The teachers who showered negative comments then, are quite surprised to see where I am now. And they are unwilling to say that they are proud of me because to them, techinically I did not graduate from “their” school.
I am proud to say this– I owe everything to my mother, who always made the correct choice at the correct time.
For Isabelle and Annabelle, as somebody who is born in the year of the Monkey, I can only say this— follow your heart. Of course time factors and deadlines should be adhered to, but trust your instincts. Make the choice for your girls and don’t look back. My mother never did. Make a choice for your girls which they will thank you for when they grow up.
Good luck!
Dun worry, i wont talk like that to you cause 1 of my best friend she send her daughter at age 4 but she know i send my son when he turn 3. I said as you like lor, that is your kids you will know what is the best for her.
It depends on the kids personally, dun worry if cant catch up the mother will be hard core teach them lor and now a day kids pick up so fast.
Sabrina, fix the course too early, we might lose some opportunity for sight seeing ;).
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DG, Thanks for the info, never know about it at all.
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cockroach, so you study hard lor, next time can give tuition and earn the money back ;).
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Miracle8, your mom really shoulder a lot pressure then, and good that you very 争气 excel well, and not wasted your mom’s effort.
yar, I am born in th year of monkey, let me monkeying around the twins’ future :lol:.
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1+2mom, this is so nice of you :D.