live in the past
Tuesday, 27 June, 2006 12:41 am
General
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A friend ask:
“Why some people always like to live in the pass.”
I guess may be becasue they have a past worth to live on.
Superman Lost!
Monday, 26 June, 2006 2:33 pm
Kids
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On the Saturday before going out, I lay down four t-shirt, let the girls choose.
Isabelle wanted the red sleeve Tigger, and Annabelle went for the yellow.
I asked them “Nobody want Superman?”
“No!”
Thanks to Aunty Michelle, help us to get this nice tees, we love it :ihappy: :ahappy:
Classic case on breaking up
Monday, 26 June, 2006 12:05 am
Busy Body
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HJ called and told me a classic case on breaking up with boyfriend.
She had a joint venture with her boyfriend (oops! sorry now is ex-bf) to set up a company to do a MLM (multi level marketing) business. Since four years ago they did it quite well, but now because of the differences in their personalities, she has decided to end the relationship. But the business still running.
Then one day they had a discussion, and both agreed to break up the business partnership as well. The company will still remain, but they have to decide who will take over and be the team leader. In the end the guy said he will take it.
So fine, the guy is now fully taking care of the company, but for what HJ has done in the business, she still has the 50% share on the income from the previous business, what the guy builds (down line) after HJ has left is totally his own business. For HJ, she needs to build up her connection all over again, but at least she can find some side income doing some odd job to sustain her current situation, fair right?
So recently HJ took up an offer, doing a 10 days road show for a big company, earning her 1k<> of side income, and her ex-bf also know about this. At the same time the monthly income from the previous MLM company also coming in. Her ex-bf gave her the amount of the share, but later asked her if she could loan him some money.
HJ got irritated about it, because having been together for almost 6 years, the guy should be pretty well aware of her financial status. Beside her own expenses, she has to pay for her three kids’ expenses, let alone her unsettled bank loan, so on and so forth.
She said she doesn’t have the money for him. Then, her ex-bf said this :- “Since the income of the company is being shared between us, I think if any one of us who has any side income should put it back to the company, and then divide the total income between the partners.” 
This is kind of like if I am a partner of A company, but then I go char-kuew-tiao at night in the pasar-malam, then the CEO of the A company ask me to give him the char-kuew-tiao income and share with other partners in the company.
I can’t believe what I have heard. HJ too, said she took some time to understand what he meant, because the guy put in so many professional terms in his words, so she thought she got him wrong. But later she got a straight answer from him as above mentioned.
Untill now we still can’t believe he said that, he got sense or not?
“don’t cry ah.”
Saturday, 24 June, 2006 12:38 am
General
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Annabelle refused to ride on any machine in the genting Theme Park, not even the simple, slow car ride. While Isabelle happily queue-up to wait for her turns, Annabelle cling on us tight “don’t want, don’t want.” and when the ride attendant try to carry her to the car, she crys!
At the outdoor theme park, after Isabelle riding on the flying fighter and flying elephant, she wait for her turn with SIL for the spinning cup.
Again Annabelle “don’t want!” Twinsdad talks to her “mei mei, why everything you also don’t want?”
Annabelle said: “No, I don’t want, very dangerous you know (the machine)?” :mroll:
“Go lar, go ride the cup with gu-ma.”
Twinsdad put her in the queue, then SIL carry her into the cup.
“Wuuu… wuu… wuu… I don’t want.”
SIL carry her to her lap “It is OK, you see? the steering can spin.” show her the spinning steering.
Annabelle very excited: “Oh… I can spin!” spin, spin, spin the steering and enjoy the ride, forgot what so dangerous.
And the rest of the ride all not “dangerous” anymore.
Then when we all on the fairy-wheel, looking down to the theme park, Twinsdad point to the flying elephant previously Annabelle afraid of “you two want to ride the flying elephant again?”
Annabelle said: “OK, I want.” then add “Don’t cry cry ah.” with her index finger gesturing no-no.
Huh! Who was the crying baby then, huh!
:mroll:
Lost and found
Friday, 23 June, 2006 12:34 am
General
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Twinsmom found she lost her back pack after came down from the catapillar monorail, sh*t! must have left it in the food court just now, because gu-ma said she didn’t recall seeing her carry the back pack since left the food court.
Immediately, Twinsmom asks Twinsdad go to the food court look for it. While walking to the food court with the twins follow behind Twinsdad, Twinsmom quickily run through what she has put in the back pack.
Think, think, think, think like Pooh Bear…
Emm… the tiny wallet carrying all the important cards and little bit of cash is in her jeans back pocket, no worry. Camera in the workshop, didn’t bring. The twins are wearing the sweater. So? only the twins’ water bottles, and Twinsmom’s lip balm are in the back pack.
*phew*… don’t feel so bad then, got chance to buy a new bag.
After reach the food court, of course the back pack was no longer at the seat, asked the cleaners around, nobody see it, well, it gone, may be someone took it.
Never mind, nothing important inside after all.
After came out from the food court, Twinsdad left the women and went to the Genting Hotel for lucky draw.
When he came back half an hour later, found Twinsmom was carrying the back pack!!! How come? He thought she lost it.
“Yee? where you found your back pack?”
“Huh! after you left, I walk to the car ride with sister, saw a woman carry the exactly same back pack like mine, so I approach her and ask her about the bag, she admitted that she saw it in the food court, then returned it to me lor, luckily all the things still inside.”
“Hah?! Like that also can?”
“… hehehe… no lar… after you left I think and think and think again, then suddenly remember I did carry the back pack when we left the food court, but I took it off in the monorail when I want to wear the sweater, after wear the sweater I totally forgot about the bag. So I went back to the station, and ask the attendant, then she returned it to me lor.”
Hehehe… just another big head prawn story.
从产后忧郁症想起…
Thursday, 22 June, 2006 4:14 pm
话说..., 中文部落格
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刚读了 mumsgather 的一篇张贴，一位有产后忧郁症的新妈妈在依猫里抒发她的感受。
我不记得自己有没有产后忧郁症，或许当时太忙，忙着照顾双生宝宝，忙着给她们授乳，忙着泵奶，泵奶的时候又忙着看电视连续集。又或许我真的非常善忘，否则不是因为读回我以前给授乳支援网写的求救依猫，我真的一点也不记得我其实曾经有过产后忧郁症。
当时我虽然担心自己的奶水不够给两个宝宝，可是那并不是造成我有产后忧郁症的原因，因为我手上有一个接生妇和一个授乳咨询的电话，必要的时候我可以花钱去让她们上门拜访（说“必要时”是因为当时一下生了两个宝宝，手头很紧）。
也并非是双生爸爸没有帮忙，他累积了一整年的年假，在年尾宝宝出世的时候一次过拿完假期，整个月陪着我一起照顾宝宝（请一个陪月妇照顾双生宝宝五千块*神经病*，不够钱请陪月妇，不能出钱，只好出力了），亲手亲为给宝宝换洗已经很好了，还外带支持我授乳。如果这样的劳工老公还要嫌的话，那就不要活着的好了。
那为什么主要的两个因素都不在范围以内，还会造成产后忧郁症呢？
主要是自己本身对人对事的要求太高。
要求越高 = 失望越大。
很基本的方程式，每个人都懂，包括你我那只有两三岁大的孩子。（连数学零蛋的双生妈妈都懂，没有理由读到大学毕业的你们不懂呗）
当做月期满后，双生爸爸回到工作岗位（虽然他表面上看似担心，但是我知道他心中欢呼），两个宝宝一起哭，我跟着她们一起哭。结果发觉原来她们不会好像她们的爸爸那样，看到我哭会不再生气然后给我安慰。只好改变方式，抱起一个，让另外一个继续哭。这个不哭了，放回下床，再抱另外一个还在哭的。就这样替换。
我满以为家婆会帮忙，谁知道她也功成身退了。有时傍晚六点明明夫姐都放工回来了，可是没有人声。总得等到八九点双喜爸爸放工回来，忽然间楼上热闹起来，夫姐和家婆都上来了，霎时间人声沸腾，晚上宝宝过度刺激睡不着了！总之就是要人的时候没人，不用人的时候个个都怕鬼似的壅在一起。
本来也没有什么，当妈妈就是要抱孩子的，责任之一，没什么好怨。但是糟在楼下天井处有四个当婆婆了的女人在搓麻将。原本我管我的抱孩子，你管你抱搓麻将，井水不犯河水。可是就好像戏院里的“解画佬”那样的讨厌，人家戏院里都有声音了你还咕嘲什么呢？
“做咩哭啊？”（当然不是问为什么我哭）
“喺唔喺肚饿啊？”（还没有时间吃饭，不过也不是问我）
“做咩重唔俾奶BB食啊？”（是啰，我喜欢饿宝宝够够）
“是不是妈咪无奶？”（屌…）
“阴功…唔好咁样嚟饿个BB啦。”（干那塞…）
然后既然问了我都没有答复，她们只好四个人自说自话。
“佢一个人都好本事啰，一个人看两个…”（美言两句）
“无办法啰，唔通你帮佢睇咩，我地D年纪爱享福啰，重帮睇孙，不得死咩？”（话锋一转）
“係啊，千祈唔好掂，拉屎上身，迟D想甩身都唔得。”（落井下石）
“…”（我学鸵鸟）
忽然间觉得我们三母女好像洪水猛兽一样，心情超级干那塞。
在当时的情形底下，没有办法不难过。可是难过归难过，“难过”既不能吃又不能穿，没有理由收着它。收拾心情，假装这个世界只有自己一个人和两个宝宝，除了自己没有其他人可以依靠，一切亲力亲为，不要再去奢望其他的人会来帮忙。反而这么整理心情之后，一切都从容就手。
别人是怎么想我不知道，可是在我的例子中，我以为产后忧郁症的发生是因为我觉得孤独，其实不如说孤独的根源是因为我有期望，期望别人的帮助，当我的期望落空，自然的我会失望，然后觉得孤独，孤独的时候就自怨自叹，相比之下越自怨自叹，就越坐困愁城，然后就越自己封闭起来。或许我应该庆幸自己是个相当乐观的人，或许说是因为我来自一个很乐观的家庭环境，又或许是因为我有个富创意的脑袋，当期望不到一加一等于二的时候，不如跳出框外，让它变成两条腿快快逃离牛角尖？
另外一个让我逃离自怨自叹的方式是比较方程式，不要把自己往高（好）的比，往高的比只会落得个跌得一身伤，往低的比。看看报纸，有些宝宝出世就有问题，还不知活不活得过周岁。有些妈妈失去了孩子，想听宝宝哭都不能够。要不就比一比住在我家再往里一点的木屋区，她们的住宿卫生环境比我差多了，收入也比我们家少，她们还一个接一个的生，一个人带五个孩子也不过这么过。这么比一比顿时觉得自己幸运得多了。
有朋友问我为什么没有看Desperate Housewives，我问她有什么好看？个个模样都比我漂亮，身材比我瘦，房子比我大，汽车比我多，她们瘦死的骆驼比我的马还大，我还花时间坐在电视前观赏她们卷帘怨西风？
一个帮佣的妇女说：“我在乡下没有听过有人生了孩子之后有这个病，可能我们读书不多不知道。个个坐月之后都忙着做工，没有时间想太多…”
所以我解产后忧郁症的处方是 – 比下不比上，不要想太多。
注：我在停止授乳之后还有一次的忧郁症，但那是生理上的因素居多，以后有时间再说。
To avoid having depression, compare ourself with those doing worst than us, and don’t think too much. Also not to expect from others (to help), the more we expect, the more disappointment we might get, high expectation = great disappointment = depression.
And open a blog and rant it out, really, it help.
“Oh… My…”
Thursday, 22 June, 2006 12:19 am
Kids
11 留言 | 笔者: Twinsmom
recently The twins pick up another exclamation phrase, we have no idea where they learnt that from.
The toy drop on the floor and chip the corner.
Annabelle: “Oh no…!” then together with Isabelle:
“Oh… my goodness gracious! see what happen to the toy!”
:s:
To please the Yang Berhormat Isabelle Chin to eat her porridge…
“I want this one.” Point to the foil cup I bought for making pie.
“Cannot! just eat your porridge in the bowl.”
“No! I want this cup! nice!”
“No, cannot!”
“I want!”
“Then you don’t eat!” Big mistake.
“OK.” Isabelle happily walk away.
“Come back! nah, give you porridge in this cup, finish it yah.”
“OK.”
Looser…
baidu.com (百度) catching up
Wednesday, 21 June, 2006 10:56 am
General
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Last year till two months ago the Google Search always on the top, but this two months the direction of the wind have change. I have been seeing Baidu.com on the top all the time. So as the top 10 country that visit my site, used to be US no.2 follow with Singapore no.3, and then China no.4. But now I see China second after Malaysia most of the time.
Hmm… It is time for me to write more in Chinese… LOL…
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